Comments on: How to Handle Criticism http://www.copyblogger.com/how-to-handle-criticism/ Online marketing that works Thu, 09 Feb 2012 16:17:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Annie M. Cole http://www.copyblogger.com/how-to-handle-criticism/#comment-1025485 Annie M. Cole Sat, 23 Jul 2011 14:38:04 +0000 http://www.copyblogger.com/?p=2809#comment-1025485 Steve, your words have been a tremendous help to me! With my first novel, I received possitive feedback and praise for my characters. With my second, some people are expressing anger that I introduced new characters and didn't include the old characters often enough. I've felt all of the emotions you have described, and then some. Thanks for helping me keep things in perspective. After all, no hospitals have burned! Steve, your words have been a tremendous help to me! With my first novel, I received possitive feedback and praise for my characters. With my second, some people are expressing anger that I introduced new characters and didn’t include the old characters often enough.
I’ve felt all of the emotions you have described, and then some. Thanks for helping me keep things in perspective. After all, no hospitals have burned!

]]> By: Emily Rose http://www.copyblogger.com/how-to-handle-criticism/#comment-1024893 Emily Rose Mon, 18 Jul 2011 04:34:23 +0000 http://www.copyblogger.com/?p=2809#comment-1024893 I had a situation like this this past week from a topic and comment someone said at school that I brought up on Facebook and it ended up letting me see the real character of a few people who I thought were my friends. One of them didn't even ask me personally why I had my opinion just attempted to state as fact in her comment that I was somehow a bad person and my friends were unethical and that she didn't want anything to do with me while at the same time touting how perfect she was for getting out of bad situations without help. I commend people for being able to get out bad situations, I think its fantastic, I also firmly believe that having compassion for other people who are still struggling is a virtue and not a personality defect. I continued to defend my position with my own story and others came into the fray to beat me up with words and it did hurt my feelings, but after talking to some of my close friends I was able to accept that the words were meant to hurt, but that I didn't have to let it stimy my personal opinion of the matter and i got over the hurt feelings and said my final say about the subject and let it drop. I realize I probably could have stopped defending my position sooner, but sometimes its hard to do that. But I did follow the advice of not throwing shit back at the people who were slamming me, I just continued to voice my opinion from my perspective and what I have personally gone through. I think that is all we can do. I had a situation like this this past week from a topic and comment someone said at school that I brought up on Facebook and it ended up letting me see the real character of a few people who I thought were my friends. One of them didn’t even ask me personally why I had my opinion just attempted to state as fact in her comment that I was somehow a bad person and my friends were unethical and that she didn’t want anything to do with me while at the same time touting how perfect she was for getting out of bad situations without help.

I commend people for being able to get out bad situations, I think its fantastic, I also firmly believe that having compassion for other people who are still struggling is a virtue and not a personality defect. I continued to defend my position with my own story and others came into the fray to beat me up with words and it did hurt my feelings, but after talking to some of my close friends I was able to accept that the words were meant to hurt, but that I didn’t have to let it stimy my personal opinion of the matter and i got over the hurt feelings and said my final say about the subject and let it drop.

I realize I probably could have stopped defending my position sooner, but sometimes its hard to do that. But I did follow the advice of not throwing shit back at the people who were slamming me, I just continued to voice my opinion from my perspective and what I have personally gone through.

I think that is all we can do.

]]> By: Todd I. Stark http://www.copyblogger.com/how-to-handle-criticism/#comment-972157 Todd I. Stark Wed, 03 Nov 2010 06:14:53 +0000 http://www.copyblogger.com/?p=2809#comment-972157 @Kyle: I interact with authors a lot on Amazon. In my own experience I find that it's important to account for human nature to some degree. To a writer, "What the *&$&# was X thinking?" might sound a lot like "What kind of *&$#$ing hack are you to have X thinking ...?" and with that, they might ignore you out of defensiveness before realizing that you might have had an interesting or at least reasonable point. I'm not saying that people should avoid criticism by any means just for the sake of sparing the author's feelings. Reviews would be pointless if we did that. Neither should we ignore the fact that authors are human beings with feelings who usually put a lot into their writing and sometimes even implicitly expect readers to put a lot of thought into reading them to try to figure out what they're trying to get across. So I do think there's an art to criticizing tactfully so that it doesn't come off to the recipient as a personal insult. It's often a good rule I think to be hard on principles but soft on people, if that makes sense? I'm still trying to learn it, but what I've learned so far has helped tremendously for my own dialogs with authors. @Kyle: I interact with authors a lot on Amazon. In my own experience I find that it’s important to account for human nature to some degree. To a writer, “What the *&$&# was X thinking?” might sound a lot like “What kind of *&$#$ing hack are you to have X thinking …?” and with that, they might ignore you out of defensiveness before realizing that you might have had an interesting or at least reasonable point.

I’m not saying that people should avoid criticism by any means just for the sake of sparing the author’s feelings. Reviews would be pointless if we did that. Neither should we ignore the fact that authors are human beings with feelings who usually put a lot into their writing and sometimes even implicitly expect readers to put a lot of thought into reading them to try to figure out what they’re trying to get across.

So I do think there’s an art to criticizing tactfully so that it doesn’t come off to the recipient as a personal insult. It’s often a good rule I think to be hard on principles but soft on people, if that makes sense? I’m still trying to learn it, but what I’ve learned so far has helped tremendously for my own dialogs with authors.

]]> By: Kyle http://www.copyblogger.com/how-to-handle-criticism/#comment-972138 Kyle Wed, 03 Nov 2010 02:45:25 +0000 http://www.copyblogger.com/?p=2809#comment-972138 I always have the opposite where authors criticise ME for doing nothing wrong other then questioning their work as if they are "holier then thou" and that I shall accept without question. Example: If I ask questions about the authors work such as WHAT THE *beep* was character X thinking when he/she tried to kick at his/her attackers in a futile effort to escape the kidnap: I will either get ignored or accused of trolling. However on these same stories the reviewers who say: "I love character X as he/she isn't flat and has lots of personality which you are doing a good job of fleshing out and I'd love for you to beta-read my story" will often receive thank you's on authors notes. The best responses I have gotten are from authors whoe's stories are not well known it seems and where the author has a lot of enthusiasum but peters out for no reason. Its' really really WEIRD. I always have the opposite where authors criticise ME for doing nothing wrong other then questioning their work as if they are “holier then thou” and that I shall accept without question.

Example:

If I ask questions about the authors work such as WHAT THE *beep* was character X thinking when he/she tried to kick at his/her attackers in a futile effort to escape the kidnap: I will either get ignored or accused of trolling.

However on these same stories the reviewers who say: “I love character X as he/she isn’t flat and has lots of personality which you are doing a good job of fleshing out and I’d love for you to beta-read my story” will often receive thank you’s on authors notes.

The best responses I have gotten are from authors whoe’s stories are not well known it seems and where the author has a lot of enthusiasum but peters out for no reason.

Its’ really really WEIRD.

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]]> By: ravi http://www.copyblogger.com/how-to-handle-criticism/#comment-731912 ravi Fri, 25 Sep 2009 20:08:55 +0000 http://www.copyblogger.com/?p=2809#comment-731912 Personal attacks and mudslinging will probably always get under my skin. But just criticizing and offering suggestions are not a problem for me. It does take wisdom to know the difference some times! Personal attacks and mudslinging will probably always get under my skin. But just criticizing and offering suggestions are not a problem for me. It does take wisdom to know the difference some times!

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