The Internet Is Not Your ATM

The Internet Is Not Your ATM

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  1. Hy Sonia!

    Interesting post you got going on here.

    I agree with what you said about shortcuts, sometimes taking them takes longer than just doing the raw hard work!

    I used to be like that, always looking for shortcuts, and it led me nowhere near my goals. But, when I worked hard, I always got near my goals and a lot of times hit them.

    Thanks for sharing this post, I’m sharing it with my audience!

    Cheers! πŸ˜€

    • I have seen *so many* people get sucked into the shortcut thing. It bums me out, because if they hadn’t been chasing the allegedly “easy” way, they’d have it down by now.

  2. Sonia,

    This post powerfully triggers the desire to authenticly act on my creative potential. When we I work from the angle of what’s in it for me, I lose the momentum of making an impact on the fear-based desire of making a sale.

    The human element of needing to provide for oneself is a necessity that can be done in an elegant and refined way to empower each other.

    Our actions are so telling of what we capable of and I communicate in my work that you can channel your unique way of finding balance in through the art of knowing yourself. Just like knowing what you got going on in the ATM.

    Ciao darling.

  3. I agree with everything here except there being no business gene.

    I think in the same way there is a music and sports gene, there is a business gene.

    It doesn’t matter how much I practise piano, having never played before, I am not going to be a successful pianist.

    Why should business be any different?

    • There is no music gene, either. If you have access to music as a child, take lessons, and put a lot of deliberate practice in, you will get good. If you have access to great musical education and put in great effort, you can become wonderful. But there’s no evidence that anyone has found for a “music” gene, and it has been looked for.

      You might be born with perfect pitch (genetic), which is handy, but it is neither necessary nor sufficient to become a great musician.

      Sports are different, because biomechanics play a role. But without the drive for deliberate practice, you’ll never get particularly good. Being tall is important in basketball, having great eyesight is important in baseball, but they are not enough.

      What we think of as the “business gene” is just early access to business ideas. And those ideas can be adopted later in life, if your early upbringing didn’t include them.

  4. Hi Sonia,

    All great lessons here.

    Being online for the right reasons – to have fun and to help others – has helped me see the internet as a medium through which I can help, serve and receive. Not confusing that order either. Because many folks in their desperation and palpable fear wish to receive, and then, maybe help…..but most have no interest in helping. Desperate people rarely think about others outside of themselves and their immediate family.

    Unfortunately, unless you can be your own client or perhaps, your family can buy your products and services, endlessly, you won’t grow a successful blogging business unless you genuinely care about other folks, outside of yourself and family.

    By helping people and having fun and learning your craft, your online business will grow over time. Not in weeks, usually, but in months, and certainly, over years. All the generous help you offered gratis literally pays you money over the long haul.

    I like to say; people dig the freemium, and then pay for the premium.

    Thanks for the rocking share Sonia.

    Ryan

  5. Sonia,
    Your article made me laugh, because it is so true. Every part of it. Everyone wants a get rich scheme, and it never happens. Everyone wants instant attention, and it never happens. Things take time, like a great meal. It needs lots of love and attention –like all great things.

    Again, thank you for your post. I loved it.

    Cheers,
    Hazim

  6. Shame on you, Sonia.

    You’re selling us dreams that generousity leads to reciprocation, and continual growth is possible for anyone.

    What a scam!

    ☺️

  7. Just wanted to say thank you, thank you, thank you for this article. It’s exactly what I needed to read today.
    Nope, no shortcuts.
    How many times have I wanted to put in such little effort and get gigantic results.
    It just doesn’t work that way.
    You are right on the nose: serve, give, offer something they want, something they value, something that will help.
    Dynamite article.
    Oh and by the way, did I say thanks?

  8. I absolutely love this! So so very true… “Don’t waste your time and emotional energy trying to convince trolls and creeps to behave better. Block them and move on with the 10,000 better things you have to do with your time.” Great article. Excellent, truthful writing.

  9. Thanks, Sonia. I agree with everything on this list.

    Nothing grinds my gears more than the promises of 6 easy steps and shortcuts and the marketing that makes people feel insecure and unable to do things without a guru. There’s a big difference between that and being someone who can help someone get something they want (and get paid for it)…Zig Ziglar approach.

    The stubbornness factor and focus is spot on, too. Many times, I’ve seen people so attached to a specific vision and exactly how they’ll achieve it that the tunnel vision sends them down a wrong path. Being stubborn about the goal (successful business) and open to how that comes to be is the right approach.

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  10. Sonia,

    Excellent article and I only wish I had written it myself!

    I just shared this with a few thousand real estate agents who fall prey to the “guru’s” who tell them they can generate thousands of leads with a $5 ad – if they only buy their course for $500.

    Have a great day –

  11. I’m trying to teach my kids that “shortcuts take longer,” (while attempting to learn that truth myself!) One problem is that my 12 year old is starting to idolize these youtube stars who were subway sandwich artists a couple years ago, but now pseudo-celebrities making a ton of money off their narcissistic videos. not the best role models! It’s a weird world, and easy to forget the “journey,” while trying to get to the destination.

  12. …by the way, a Pug with a plush hot dog for this post seems to make sense for some reason! the more time i spend online, the more I’m convinced that things are turning into Fantasyland…

  13. Sonia, when you say, “Business is about learning some skills, assembling assets, and using those to serve a market. Anyone with a moderately functional human brain can figure out ways to do that.”, I totally agree. It just takes some longer than others to realize they do have what it takes.

    This is one of my favorite posts from you I have read. We all have to realize we already have what it takes to be awesome. Now we just have to define it and get started.

  14. I worked a 100 hrs a week in the community for 5 years to learn coding https://www.studiopress.com/forums/users/braddalton/replies/page/895/ so i can make a full time living on the internet which is a challenge as so many people want everything for free.

    My policy : Anything which takes less than an hour is given away for free and anything more i ask for payment.

    Some people will try and take shortcuts by bullying you into working for free and some will even resell your work. Don’t let them get away with it and don’t be anyones slave!

  15. Great post. I learned a lot. One question. I hope it doesn’t sound off-topic. Do you insist on bylines for freelance work? Or accreditation of some kind? And did you always? I have a pretty good client, who’s paying well and I like the work, but I’m afraid it’ll end up being a fool’s errand, if I’m not getting byline credit that I can showcase. In fairness, I don’t know that he’s adverse to including bylines, just that he hasn’t included them or gotten privy to subtle mention of them.

  16. Having making a living from internet in the last ten years i have to say: great post, and ideas. Would be nice though to dig a little deeper into the idea of “easy” path. By my experience, most people don’t know what is the easiest or harder path, they are just trying to survive.

  17. I love the quote that if you feel that you are too good for selling then you should do something else.
    Over the years I have met so many people who think that they can just throw up a website and it will start generating cash for them. Forget about short cuts, these people didn’t want to do anything after the web design phase.
    Business, like life is about educating yourself, learning from your mistakes and putting in a lot of hard work. Thanks for the article.

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